Interesting article in Forbes, perfectly appropriate for Valentine’s Day. Best point is that while raising money may be like dating, a financial partnership is like marriage..for good and bad reasons. Pick your partners carefully.
I was at a dinner party recently with an entrepreneur friend who had just secured big funding for her business—to the tune of several million dollars. Not surprisingly, she was glowing, abuzz with excitement over her new relationship.
As she told the story of the preceding few weeks, a time when several different venture capital funds were vying for a spot, pestering her with phone calls, lunch offers and even the occasional gift, it struck me. My friend had, after four years of struggling to get her business off of the ground, become the belle of the ball.
“Finding the right investor is a lot like the dating process,” said Dhana Goldstein at February’s Pipeline Fellowship Conference, a meeting of seasoned and aspiring angel investors at the law offices of Goodwin Procter in Midtown, Manhattan. Is every date going to yield a long-term love affair? “You like them and they like you back. You think they’re cute, and so you go out a few times and get to know them. But… getting married is a commitment.”
Alexa von Tobel, whose personal finance site LearnVest has raised over $24 million in funding since its launch in 2007, most recently $19 million led by Accel Partners in July of 2011, is well-versed in the ritual of seeking and securing funding. “At many phases we’ve been in a position where we have a lot of opportunity,” von Tobel says, in reference to the multiple venture capital firms offering investment in LearnVest’s Series A and Series B rounds. “But early on I received the very good advice to be very, very thoughtful about my decision on who to partner with, because taking an investment was going to be a multi-year, maybe even decade-long arrangement.”
It’s easy to get caught up in the hype and energy of so much opportunity, she says, but by viewing her relationship with potential investors through the lens of a long-term relationship, even a marriage, helped her to stay focused on the future, rather than the fleeting excitement of signing a multi-million dollar contract.
“The action stage of investing is the wedding,” says Robert Delman, managing director at Golden Seeds, an angel fund that focuses its investments on women-led ventures. “The marriage, of course, is much, much more important.” And so, he says, the decision-making is just as tricky for investors as it is for the entrepreneur who stands to benefit.
If the road to financial backing is a thrilling and emotional one for entrepreneurs, for investors, especially Angel investors, who regularly part with their own money, rather than an impersonal fund, it can also be especially fraught. Parting with money is undeniably personal. What if the decision is made too quickly? When do you know to follow your gut?
“Intuition only gets you so far,” said Delman, continuing the romance theme. “I like to spend a lot of time with the entrepreneurs I’m considering funding, testing them and challenging them.” For him, it’s about asking the right questions—of the start-ups team members as well as friends and colleagues to gauge the entrepreneur’s promise, humility and coachability. “Like any relationship,” he says, “It’s best to really get to know each other before you go to bed. Because once the papers are signed you’re going to live together for the next five to seven years.”
Think of investors doing due-diligence as the most thorough stalking job you could imagine, one prospective angel investor joked to me. Their job is to look into your business plan, projected numbers and history of success through dozens of phone calls and meetings with former employers, advisers, bankers and even rivals in an attempt to evaluate the likelihood of your success—and potential returns to the investor. Once she’s satisfied, like any high net worth relationship, there’s one final step before walking down the aisle: the pre-nuptial agreement.
Well, not really. But almost. “I wouldn’t say the term sheet is exactly a pre-nup,” says Delman, “But in terms of structuring the deal it’s pretty close.” A term sheet is meant to lay out, in no uncertain terms, each party’s ownership in the company, and road-maps milestones and possible succession plans for further down the road. In short, it’s a very complicated—and legally binding—contingency plan for both parties that consummates your long-term relationship… for better or for worse.
For von Tobel, her experience since taking her first outside dollar in 2009 has been positive, something she credits to her relationship-minded approach to finding the right investors. “It’s really important to think not just about who you can stand to be in a long-term relationship with, but who you’ll be excited by years down the road,” she says. “Because of that, because of my thoroughness through all that excitement, we picked the right team, and I can say with all honesty that I have true and genuine trust in my board and my investors.”
“It is a relationship,” she says, offering advice for both entrepreneurs and investors not to rush into any deal too-soon based on the early jitters of young love. “And just like any other relationship in your life, you want to be truly thoughtful. Because if you make the right decision, you really will have a much more functioning, respectful and—yes, exciting–marriage.”


